Valent\u00edn Rodil is a psychologist and a grief expert. He works in this Mobile Unit of San Camilo, where they reach out to people in need of therapeutic support.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
He has spent years studying how people's reactions to the loss of a loved one has evolve over time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
VALENT\u00cdN RODIL The other thing I realized\u2014and I think it\u2019s important to highlight\u2014is that grief isn\u2019t a process that ends with a \u201chappily ever after\u201d sign. Over the course of ten years, life throws enough hardships your way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n In his book, From My Ashes, My Foundation, he shares several examples he has witnessed, like a woman who lost her fiance during his bachelor party.<\/p>\n\n\n\n VALENT\u00cdN RODIL That\u2019s why this psychologist emphasizes the importance of working on realistic motivations and having patience: there are no quick formulas for facing grief. Life, with all its challenges, will not wait for you to feel better before it continues on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n VALENT\u00cdN RODIL In addition to proposing realistic hopes, Valent\u00edn focuses on a specific verb: to choose.<\/p>\n\n\n\n VALENT\u00cdN RODIL It is important to begin to make decisions, whether small or big. It is also important that the person\u2019s closest circle is deeply respectful of their timing. All of this points to the idea that one can emerge from grief, and that it is a process that can be enriching, given the right amount of time, effort, and care. Valent\u00edn Rodil is a psychologist and a grief expert. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":758,"featured_media":79194,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[27],"tags":[],"acf":{"video":"https:\/\/youtu.be\/8VGMtfomt5o","video_descarga":"https:\/\/attuale.romereports.com\/news\/blibrodueloeng.mp4","international_url":"https:\/\/attuale.romereports.com\/news\/blibrodueloint.mp4","type":"bn","newsletter":"si"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.romereports.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/79206"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.romereports.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.romereports.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.romereports.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/758"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.romereports.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=79206"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/www.romereports.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/79206\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":79210,"href":"https:\/\/www.romereports.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/79206\/revisions\/79210"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.romereports.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/79194"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.romereports.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=79206"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.romereports.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=79206"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.romereports.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=79206"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
Author, From My Ashes, My Foundation
<\/strong>I realized two things. One, that the timelines for grief we typically follow probably aren\u2019t accurate, and therefore, the rebuilding process takes much longer.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Author, From My Ashes, My Foundation
<\/strong>It took her a very long time to even begin processing the whole story. Later, she got married to someone else. It was beautiful\u2014a meaningful moment for her, a second chance. However, soon after, she lost two babies and can\u2019t become a mother. So, behind grief, there isn't always a happy ending.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Author, From My Ashes, My Foundation
<\/strong>Ultimately, there\u2019s a point of true hope that must be talked about. Hope that is not a mere illusion, and that requires letting go of less truthful hopes, like the belief that the loved one will return. You would not believe how many people, even against their better judgment, still think their loved one is going to come back.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n
Author, From My Ashes, My Foundation
<\/strong>The loss of a loved one, or of something deeply meaningful, is often so powerful that it feels like a personal collapse. Everything feels like it\u2019s over. And it\u2019s in that space that the verb \u201cto choose\u201d brings hope.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n
VALENT\u00cdN RODIL
Author, From My Ashes, My Foundation
<\/strong>If you have a friend who decides, on their own, to stay in bed, strengthening their decision means strengthening their capacity to choose. Respecting their decision helps them move forward. Otherwise, society just pushes people to get back to life, and that\u2019s pretty problematic, because it means people return to life without having processed anything, without having lived through it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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